tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post8605347526732893833..comments2024-03-27T10:05:39.357-04:00Comments on The ODD Mom: Me? Homeschool? Oh God...Please No.Laura Wrighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05313523730829470674noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-70845717956654634932019-03-26T19:47:51.185-04:002019-03-26T19:47:51.185-04:00When he break up with me my heart was filled with ...When he break up with me my heart was filled with pains,sorrow..couldn't just bear it any more because i was madly in love with my boyfriend. Every day and night i thought of him and always wish he would come back to me, i was really upset and i needed help, so i searched for help online and came across a testimony that suggested "Dr osofo that he can help get ex back fast a nd also stop a divorce. I felt I should give him a try...I contacted him and he told me what he need to work on my situation and i gave them to him then he did a love spell for me... 48 hours after, my boyfriend called me and came back to me and apologized for leaving me..(cos he hurt me) and promised never to do that again. Since that day, he has really be so nice to me.. he just love me more...am so happy..All thanks to dr osofo. If you have any problem and your want to get your ex back contact him, I was also told he have herbal medicine that cure all kinds of diseases/sickness, contact dr osofo now through his email......( osofo.48hoursolutioncenter@gmail.com )Hanny Shaphisshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18372236501908458481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-41476220392282072322012-04-10T11:16:31.070-04:002012-04-10T11:16:31.070-04:00Hi UK Girl (that's your new name). I really ad...Hi UK Girl (that's your new name). I really admire what you're doing. If I ever go the homeschooling route, that is what we'll do. Bear doesn't even like being read to, so it's extremely challenging to do any traditional school work with him. But, as you say, he's naturally inquisitive and asks questions like what a turtle looks like without his shell on. That came about because he saw a sign for a turtle crossing. ;-) I bet you find you're learning more about these topics than you ever thought possible, too! That must be fun. Enjoy.Laura Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05313523730829470674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-37364548491090168152012-04-10T11:15:21.395-04:002012-04-10T11:15:21.395-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Laura Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05313523730829470674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-65127812145089618912012-04-10T06:05:43.523-04:002012-04-10T06:05:43.523-04:00Hi Laura, UK girl back again! I home educate by no...Hi Laura, UK girl back again! I home educate by not doing "lessons". ADHD kids as you know are naturally inquisitive, and engage well but usually only if they are really interested or inspired. I leave interesting books with lovely photos in around the house in various places, my sons finds them and asks questions, we chat about it in a casual way often using the internet to back up and confirm our discussions but i find if he is doing the initiating he soaks up the information. We learn stuff in the park, at the river, in the library, (we chat about tudor history while we play tennis together!!)but very rarely do we sit at a desk. We learn different things to the "schooled" but that is a good thing as if all kids left school/college knowing the same skills wouldn't life be boring! I took my 5 yr old son for a holiday at the beach last week, he has returned and can now name and identify 7!! different types of seaweed, 9 shells and 3 diffent types of crab...now theres not many 5 year old kids that can do that!! We have a bird feeder outside our living room window, he watches them feed with binolulars and can identify about 8 birds too, he draws them and labels them, why? because it interests him, good luckAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-42625900201624391592012-03-25T21:29:44.919-04:002012-03-25T21:29:44.919-04:00The problem with Bear is that I can't get him ...The problem with Bear is that I can't get him to do traditional "work." He shuts down completely when I try, so I've almost been doing more of an "unschooling" thing with him when he's home. The interesting thing is that last week he did better at school on the days that he actually went than he has in a long time. I'm not sure if that was just coincidence or if it had to do with our one day on/one day off schedule. And I have to admit...I had fun with him.Laura Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05313523730829470674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-49135226518157698152012-03-25T20:15:29.394-04:002012-03-25T20:15:29.394-04:00You could also look into hybrid homeschooling, whi...You could also look into hybrid homeschooling, which it sounds like is what you are doing now, unofficially. For 2 years we belonged to a homeschool academy where the kids went to school 2 days and were home with me the other 3 days. We switched back to public for my older since he behaved MUCH better at a school with more structure and an authority figure that was not me. (Go figure) I'll admit I was completely surprised at how much I enjoyed homeschooling. Did it out of a reaction to the poor rep. of our local school, but ended up really liking the flexibility and lack of a structured schedule. Doing the hybrid thing meant that the school came up with the lesson plans and told me which books we needed. For K - 2 (I have 2 sons who went through these grades while we were there) it took no more than 30 minutes of work each day. You might be surprised at how much you take to it!Mom's Magical Miles Archivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06849200037765720009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-67854596784577729502012-03-21T23:41:41.152-04:002012-03-21T23:41:41.152-04:00Johanne, my idea of homeschooling is much the same...Johanne, my idea of homeschooling is much the same as yours. Bear isn't a sit down with a textbook kid, so there would be no point. Right now he's home a few days/week to try to ease some of his anxiety, but our schedule is pretty flexible. He was allowed to play video games on the computer, but only on French websites (he's in French school). He was allowed to play on his Leapster, but only with the French games. Reading wasn't out of his reader, it was using his new LeapPad reader...in French, of course. He's in school tomorrow and back home on Friday, but I think Friday might be the library or the museum. Like you, I'm more concerned about what he learns than about how he learns it. Fortunately for us, the school feels the same way, so they're extremely flexible and open to ideas. Thanks for sharing your experiences with me.Laura Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05313523730829470674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-74964498823851549112012-03-21T20:34:52.600-04:002012-03-21T20:34:52.600-04:00I never expected to be a teacher - even a homescho...I never expected to be a teacher - even a homeschool teacher. The kids loved it. They learned a lot. When the girls returned to school two years later, one went straight to her grade level. The other stayed in grade 1 because she refused to do the placement evaluations (sound familiar? ;) ). Two weeks into school, her teacher looked at me and told me that she was in fact ready for grade 2, but that it was now too late to move her up. My girls are now in high school and middle school, and at the top of their respective classes - which I think is a direct result from their homeschooling experience. Beyond teaching them the basics that they would have learned in school, I taught them how to think for themselves and solve the puzzles and problems of life.<br /><br />Yes, homeschooling is intimidating. Yes, it's a lot of work - kind of. I know that it's not right for every family. My girls miss homeschooling. They liked the pace and the fact that we could explore things that caught their attention. It was right for us. It was right for us. I hope you and Bear can find a solution that is right for you.Johanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08449325971213480625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-19143664670792324042012-03-21T20:08:58.796-04:002012-03-21T20:08:58.796-04:00Once I let go of my ingrained and preconceived ide...Once I let go of my ingrained and preconceived ideas on education, my girls were finally able to learn. My oldest had started at school, but by the end of 1st grade was burned out. What 6 yo gets burned out?! And the school didn't see there was a problem, except that she wasn't getting her homework done. Except we were spending 2-3 hours trying to get the homework done. By the time she'd get home from school, and with supper, bath and homework, she had no time left to play or decompress.<br /><br />Anyhow, I decided that for her mental health that I would homeschool. I figured if I taught her how to walk, talk, draw, count and her letters in two languages, then I could probably teach her how to read and write.<br /><br />I found that if I allowed myself to not be limited by my expectations, and if I was more fluid in my parenting/teaching, then we would have a good learning experience. For myself, that's what I found to be more important. Was it important that they learn to read from easy readers, or that they just learn how to read? Was it important that they complete page after page of math worksheets, or that they learn that 2+2 is 4? And once they learned it, really learned it and understood it, was it important that they repeat the work over and over again?Johanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08449325971213480625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-6849077436218613832012-03-21T18:59:27.802-04:002012-03-21T18:59:27.802-04:00Laura,
In the extra long and rambling post that I...Laura,<br /><br />In the extra long and rambling post that I had put up I explained how we did homeschooling. Like you, I have ADHD (at the time I was untreated), in my case it's pretty severe. We did what most would consider "unschooling" - partially because I have ADHD, partially out of necessity. The need for unschooling came from (a) the fact that my kids also had untreated ADHD and (b) I was homeschooling in French and there was no curriculum and only very few resources available.<br /><br />Unschooling isn't that the kids don't learn. It isn't that the kids make all the decisions. It's more of a "free-form" method of learning. Considering what the kids wanted to learn (anything from whales and dolphins to robotics to the Incas to name but a few of the projects we worked on...), I taught them how to read, write, about science, math, and history. I had my own business at the time, so they saw first hand the real life applications for the things I was teaching them.<br /><br />It took about two or three hours a day of "sit-down" work, which was hardly ever done "sit-down". Our "classroom" was our dining room table. I used everyday occurrences as teaching experiences. Could they read the recipe? Could they measure the ingredients? Could they scale the recipe up/down? We went to the museums and art galleries. We were constantly at the library.<br /><br />Their education was more based on experiencing life than what could be found in a text book - mostly because I couldn't find one.Johanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08449325971213480625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-49496015956366933522012-03-16T14:11:37.432-04:002012-03-16T14:11:37.432-04:00Poor little thing. Why has she moved around so muc...Poor little thing. Why has she moved around so much? Are they not able to handle her?Laura Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05313523730829470674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-37721203716604526592012-03-16T12:41:21.012-04:002012-03-16T12:41:21.012-04:00Did I write this? My girly has attended no fewer t...Did I write this? My girly has attended no fewer than 5 schools in her 7 years, and I often wonder sometimes if homeschooling would be better. Then I wake up. Neither she nor I would emerge unscathed! I understand and admire homeschooling now WAY more than I used to, but not for us...at least not now.WhacamoleLifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03859531985217484640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-42569619876714576442012-03-15T20:01:52.941-04:002012-03-15T20:01:52.941-04:00Johanne, I was away so I never had a chance to rea...Johanne, I was away so I never had a chance to read your comments. For the record, I have nothing against homeschooling. I know of other parents with children like Bear who have done it and have had great success with it. From an objective standpoint, I can see why it might be a great idea for Bear. From a personal standpoint, I'm not sure it's our best bet. For one thing, I have ADHD myself and can't organize/motivate my way way out of a cardboard box. I honestly think there would be a whole lot more TV watching than learning going on if I were in charge. My other big concern is Bear's ODD. The school can't get him to do any work, and neither can I (for the most part). Perhaps it would be different in a homeschooling environment, but I'm worried it wouldn't be. When a child throws a chair at you just because you try to get him to sit down and do his work, you tend to not want to take on any additional schooling. And lastly, I never wanted to be a teacher and still don't. I don't have the patience for it, and I don't think this situation would change that. Right now I'm still hoping the school will receive the resources we need, but if not...well...homeschooling may still be in our future.Laura Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05313523730829470674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-35105244671313234752012-03-15T19:49:54.874-04:002012-03-15T19:49:54.874-04:00I can't tell you how hard it is to hear your 6...I can't tell you how hard it is to hear your 6yo say he's stupid and mean it. As far as I know, no one has ever said those words to him -- that's all him. And for the record, he couldn't be more wrong. The school says he's brilliant, and I couldn't agree more. Thanks for your kind words, Kimberly. I appreciate it.Laura Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05313523730829470674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-11451074068539381882012-03-15T19:48:04.186-04:002012-03-15T19:48:04.186-04:00I'd love to hear how you've managed to get...I'd love to hear how you've managed to get your son to do his work. I can't get mine to do homework, so I can't imagine how I'd get him to do any work. That's one of my biggest concerns, but I don't doubt that some aspects of homeschooling would be beneficial for him. How have you managed?Laura Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05313523730829470674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-69101240884975807352012-03-15T10:39:18.536-04:002012-03-15T10:39:18.536-04:00I'm sorry Laura, I wrote my comment(s) at half...I'm sorry Laura, I wrote my comment(s) at half-past midnight last night, after being up for over 48 hours thanks to illness... They were rambling and out of place and I apologize.<br /><br />I just wanted to say that "full-time" homeschooling is not for every family, but can work in some cases. I'm sure you have your reasons to not want to homeschool. I hope that Bear can get the resources he needs soon.Johanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08449325971213480625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-63662031241264153052012-03-15T00:49:15.681-04:002012-03-15T00:49:15.681-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Johanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08449325971213480625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-66286338237179499202012-03-15T00:48:53.295-04:002012-03-15T00:48:53.295-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Johanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08449325971213480625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-71125367106596099932012-03-15T00:47:23.113-04:002012-03-15T00:47:23.113-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Johanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08449325971213480625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-21548555985330696232012-03-15T00:44:33.344-04:002012-03-15T00:44:33.344-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Johanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08449325971213480625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-81576932907831302972012-03-14T19:01:31.213-04:002012-03-14T19:01:31.213-04:00His words..."i'm stupid" just broke ...His words..."i'm stupid" just broke my heart into a million pieces.<br />I have no idea how he must feel every single day.<br />I have no idea how you feel every single day.<br />But I do know that you both are pretty amazing.Kimberlyhttp://makemommygosomethingsomething.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-50687983627636699652012-03-13T16:30:06.744-04:002012-03-13T16:30:06.744-04:00Hi Laura,
I live in the UK, my son is your son'...Hi Laura,<br />I live in the UK, my son is your son's doppelganger! I know when I read your blogs that I'm not the only one, my son has severe ADHD & ODD (on medication) with ASD thrown into the mix, he will be 6 in a couple of months.<br />I took the decision to withdraw my son from school and home educate, one year on I can honestly say it has to be the single best thing I could EVER have done for him, I have watched him blossom and it makes me smile every day to see him so much happier and more confidentAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-87647629635273937102012-03-13T10:55:47.059-04:002012-03-13T10:55:47.059-04:00There you are! I thought you had gotten bored of u...There you are! I thought you had gotten bored of us. ;-)<br /><br />I've heard about lavender for anxiety, but I haven't tried it yet. Kava is new to me, so I'll have to look into that. Thanks for the tip.Laura Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05313523730829470674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-4369962597102823632012-03-13T04:29:56.156-04:002012-03-13T04:29:56.156-04:00Hey Laura, apologies for my silence of late, I'...Hey Laura, apologies for my silence of late, I've had problems posting comments on your site, but I'm very glad to see a new post today! While my monkey doesn't suffer from ODD, he does have anxiety issues. I have NO idea if it helps but I add pure essential Lavender to his nightly bath, put more on his pulse points at bed, and his Naturopath today prescribed a homeopathic remedy 'Kava' for anxiety. I've just started it but thought I'd put it out there for you.C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06718970528564075858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5187108381878434006.post-75726152336135779662012-03-12T17:08:08.025-04:002012-03-12T17:08:08.025-04:00It has occurred to me, but I don't know if it&...It has occurred to me, but I don't know if it's necessary yet.Laura Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05313523730829470674noreply@blogger.com